Feminization Doesn't Always Mean Humiliation

[Empress Christine]

While some of you may enjoy being teased and taunted about how girlie you are... and the sounds of my giggles as I doll you up... others of you take it more seriously and are all about the sensuality of it... the sheer pleasure of being dressed.

Leave a comment and tell me if humiliation is a part of your feminization... and enjoy this: http://eroticaudios.com/content/Christi ... iation.mp3

[_Davina_]

I like this topic and thank you very much for the audio Ms Christine. I think humiliation comes in so many different forms that it's difficult to say I like it or I don't. Some of that is obvious as I'm sure everyone knows that all sissies don't necessarily have small clitties. In fact, if you watch any trans porn, you can see that a great number of sissies can have quite the opposite and as such, I find what they call small-penis humiliation or "SPH" just weird because it's more like, "what are you talking about. You certainly aren't referring to me." But, at the same time, I adore and find it very exciting when a Mistress would refer to me as a sissy or panty-waste, or even a faggot because I wear girl's underwear.

I also have a great love of the more tender and romantic styles of attraction between sissy and Mistress and I love reading and writing erotic stories of that nature. but I think there is one aspect of sissy-hood that is almost always overlooked and maybe even totally denied.

I think that is the reality of the sissy who can also be a manly man at other times. I will admit I am no manly man like some of the macho guys who would rather drink beer, go to the bar or go fishing with his buddies, or any number of other things that the redneck type of manly man does. But when it comes to tying up my Lady and teasing her with melted candle wax or other interesting treats, I can easily finish her off with a pounding coitus that leaves her walking bow-legged for a bit. Enough that I know my Lady doesn't have any reason to desire another supposedly "real" guy. So it stands to reason that it's not impossible for a guy to play both roles except I suspect most people generally refuse to believe that such exists.

In a tender and loving relationship like I have with my wife, humiliation has to be kept to a very consensual and defined level. For example, I like when my wife calls me a slut or many other derogatory terms when I am dressed like a sissy and we are playing. But she has made it clear that she doesn't like being called any of those things when I am playing the dominant role. She loves playing the tied up and helpless damsel in distress and I do my silly little things like messing with her mind. An example of that is when I have her blindfolded and start dripping hot candle wax on her and then ask her if she is ready to feel that hot wax on her nipple. I instead, touch her nipple with an ice-cube which momentarily confuses the senses and she lurches in her bonds thinking I have burned her nipple. That worked great the first time but she has me pegged now.

I think humiliation is an important part of any good sexual relationship if kept in proper perspective of the situation.

[Empress Christine]

I like this topic and thank you very much for the audio Ms Christine. I think humiliation comes in so many different forms that it's difficult to say I like it or I don't. Some of that is obvious as I'm sure everyone knows that all sissies don't necessarily have small clitties. In fact, if you watch any trans porn, you can see that a great number of sissies can have quite the opposite and as such, I find what they call small-penis humiliation or "SPH" just weird because it's more like, "what are you talking about. You certainly aren't referring to me." But, at the same time, I adore and find it very exciting when a Mistress would refer to me as a sissy or panty-waste, or even a faggot because I wear girl's underwear.

I also have a great love of the more tender and romantic styles of attraction between sissy and Mistress and I love reading and writing erotic stories of that nature. but I think there is one aspect of sissy-hood that is almost always overlooked and maybe even totally denied.

I think that is the reality of the sissy who can also be a manly man at other times. I will admit I am no manly man like some of the macho guys who would rather drink beer, go to the bar or go fishing with his buddies, or any number of other things that the redneck type of manly man does. But when it comes to tying up my Lady and teasing her with melted candle wax or other interesting treats, I can easily finish her off with a pounding coitus that leaves her walking bow-legged for a bit. Enough that I know my Lady doesn't have any reason to desire another supposedly "real" guy. So it stands to reason that it's not impossible for a guy to play both roles except I suspect most people generally refuse to believe that such exists.

In a tender and loving relationship like I have with my wife, humiliation has to be kept to a very consensual and defined level. For example, I like when my wife calls me a slut or many other derogatory terms when I am dressed like a sissy and we are playing. But she has made it clear that she doesn't like being called any of those things when I am playing the dominant role. She loves playing the tied up and helpless damsel in distress and I do my silly little things like messing with her mind. An example of that is when I have her blindfolded and start dripping hot candle wax on her and then ask her if she is ready to feel that hot wax on her nipple. I instead, touch her nipple with an ice-cube which momentarily confuses the senses and she lurches in her bonds thinking I have burned her nipple. That worked great the first time but she has me pegged now.

I think humiliation is an important part of any good sexual relationship if kept in proper perspective of the situation.

You are so right about some (possibly many) sissies / trans-girls having average to big clitties. Acknowledging all sissy clits as small is definitely a humiliation factor. And some sissies do love SPH.
I'm so glad that you shared with us here and that you prefer a more sensual side to feminization, even when you seem to enjoy a little humiliation play with your wife. I think that variety keeps your playtime interesting and fresh, right?
And you make a great point with: I think humiliation is an important part of any good sexual relationship if kept in proper perspective of the situation. Very true and great point! Thanks for sharing and for adding to this topic!

[CandiGurl]

Excellent topic. I think once upon a time, when I was a lot cupcake and wasn't dressing up, I had those humiliation fantasies. But, by the time I finally started dressing up and feminizing myself, it just became who I am. It's just about being me. I'm not really into humiliation and certainly don't see myself as lesser.

If somebody tried treating me that way, it wouldn't go well for very long. This doesn't mean that I'm not somebody who could be more submissive in a relationship, but I'm not a doormat. If I met the right woman and we clicked, I could easily see me in a position of following her lead and using my creativity to help her and therefor both of us shine. As far as a little humiliation role play between us, I wouldn't rule that out.

This is where it comes down to communication and reaching an understanding of what both of you want from a relationship. That takes honesty. I think it can lead to a wonderful relationship.

[Empress Christine]

Excellent topic. I think once upon a time, when I was a lot cupcake and wasn't dressing up, I had those humiliation fantasies. But, by the time I finally started dressing up and feminizing myself, it just became who I am. It's just about being me. I'm not really into humiliation and certainly don't see myself as lesser.

If somebody tried treating me that way, it wouldn't go well for very long. This doesn't mean that I'm not somebody who could be more submissive in a relationship, but I'm not a doormat. If I met the right woman and we clicked, I could easily see me in a position of following her lead and using my creativity to help her and therefor both of us shine. As far as a little humiliation role play between us, I wouldn't rule that out.

This is where it comes down to communication and reaching an understanding of what both of you want from a relationship. That takes honesty. I think it can lead to a wonderful relationship.

Thanks for responding CandiGurl, and you are right, not all submissives are into humiliation. But it is good to know that you are open to a bit of humiliation role-play, it can be fun for a play-date from time to time And yes, honesty is always a cornerstone for a solid, lasting relationship!

[Dena]

Thanks Empress Christine,

I too enjoy the sensual side of dressing and sharing it with a woman. As for humiliation, I like playful teasing about how much I love feeling feminine and playing dress up!

[_Davina_]

... I think that variety keeps your playtime interesting and fresh, right?
And you make a great point with: I think humiliation is an important part of any good sexual relationship if kept in proper perspective of the situation. Very true and great point! Thanks for sharing and for adding to this topic!

Thank YOU so much Mistress Christine. I'm sorry for getting so verbose but I get carried away on a keyboard.

You are so right about keeping it interesting and fresh. That's important in a LTR.

[KariNicole]

Hello Empress Christine
I have never really had anyone treat me as a Sissy but I am not too sure I would enjoy the humiliation so much but I am open to anything at least once, for me it's just what feel natural, boy clothes feel heavy and daunting on me and Girls clothes feel right and comfortable

[CathyLPeterson]

From the very beginning my wife has enjoyed including what I'll call "embarrassing" and "teasing" but not quite the full humiliation with me. She likes talking with me and making comments in a soft, kind of whispered voice, as if only we're supposed to hear it, and she's very direct in asking me questions that she wants and expects me to answer out loud back to her. So while I feel teased and quite embarrassed, I don't think I ever feel humiliated.

She loves to ask over and over things like, "You really like wearing these don't you? don't you? come on and tell me you like wearing these" to which I have to agree and say so.

That usually moves into her wanting me to explain/describe what I'm wearing, either cupcake's seeing me right in front of her in lingerie, or when I'm fully dressed and I'll have to tell about my lingerie that isn't seen.

She does "tease" me (probably almost daily) about being very small, flaccid, tiny and asks me if it's so much better to just easily tuck away into my panties showing a soft and very feminine "V" between my legs/thighs, and she likes me to talk to her about that, and explain how I love this and prefer it this way. She also likes to "tease" with questions/comments about why I should wear a maxi-pad pressed in tight over my soft "V" and again she likes to ask/comment over and over and get me to agree with her and say the same.

Her very general most common questioning for teasing is always about simply saying things about how much better I look as a woman, asking how much better I feel as woman, isn't this what I've always wanted, am I not happier like this, aren't both of us happier like this, don't I love feeling just like her/wearing clothes like she wears, having breasts like she does.

The past several months that I've been using my Medela maternity breat-pump (electric) she likes to come in and sit real close to me and watch along with me thru the clear plastic as my breast gets suctioned, my nipple gets stretched and elongated, my skin gets very pink and my breast tissue gets fuller, and she'll embarrass me with comments about could we imagine if friends, cupcake members, neighbors could see me doing this, and how she loves to watch and wishes her friends could see, and asks if I'd like to tell my sisters or her friends how I love to pump my breasts. She gets very animated in her whispering and constant repetition and loves to urge me on to join her in describing myself as a complete sissy, woman, feminine girlie girl in every way - and of course I join right in and do so.

[Empress Christine]

Thanks Empress Christine,

I too enjoy the sensual side of dressing and sharing it with a woman. As for humiliation, I like playful teasing about how much I love feeling feminine and playing dress up!

Thanks for sharing Dena, and you do strike me as the sensual type

[Empress Christine]

... I think that variety keeps your playtime interesting and fresh, right?
And you make a great point with: I think humiliation is an important part of any good sexual relationship if kept in proper perspective of the situation. Very true and great point! Thanks for sharing and for adding to this topic!

Thank YOU so much Mistress Christine. I'm sorry for getting so verbose but I get carried away on a keyboard.

You are so right about keeping it interesting and fresh. That's important in a LTR.

I agree and don't apologize Davina, I love it with you girls share with me

[Empress Christine]

Hello Empress Christine
I have never really had anyone treat me as a Sissy but I am not too sure I would enjoy the humiliation so much but I am open to anything at least once, for me it's just what feel natural, boy clothes feel heavy and daunting on me and Girls clothes feel right and comfortable

It feels good being a girl, uh KariNicole? Right even... I'm glad you are comfortable with dressing and the humiliating side of it isn't for everyone... but if you do try it sometime, let us know what you think!

[Empress Christine]

From the very beginning my wife has enjoyed including what I'll call "embarrassing" and "teasing" but not quite the full humiliation with me. She likes talking with me and making comments in a soft, kind of whispered voice, as if only we're supposed to hear it, and she's very direct in asking me questions that she wants and expects me to answer out loud back to her. So while I feel teased and quite embarrassed, I don't think I ever feel humiliated.

She loves to ask over and over things like, "You really like wearing these don't you? don't you? come on and tell me you like wearing these" to which I have to agree and say so.

That usually moves into her wanting me to explain/describe what I'm wearing, either cupcake's seeing me right in front of her in lingerie, or when I'm fully dressed and I'll have to tell about my lingerie that isn't seen.

She does "tease" me (probably almost daily) about being very small, flaccid, tiny and asks me if it's so much better to just easily tuck away into my panties showing a soft and very feminine "V" between my legs/thighs, and she likes me to talk to her about that, and explain how I love this and prefer it this way. She also likes to "tease" with questions/comments about why I should wear a maxi-pad pressed in tight over my soft "V" and again she likes to ask/comment over and over and get me to agree with her and say the same.

Her very general most common questioning for teasing is always about simply saying things about how much better I look as a woman, asking how much better I feel as woman, isn't this what I've always wanted, am I not happier like this, aren't both of us happier like this, don't I love feeling just like her/wearing clothes like she wears, having breasts like she does.

The past several months that I've been using my Medela maternity breat-pump (electric) she likes to come in and sit real close to me and watch along with me thru the clear plastic as my breast gets suctioned, my nipple gets stretched and elongated, my skin gets very pink and my breast tissue gets fuller, and she'll embarrass me with comments about could we imagine if friends, cupcake members, neighbors could see me doing this, and how she loves to watch and wishes her friends could see, and asks if I'd like to tell my sisters or her friends how I love to pump my breasts. She gets very animated in her whispering and constant repetition and loves to urge me on to join her in describing myself as a complete sissy, woman, feminine girlie girl in every way - and of course I join right in and do so.

There are so many levels, so many forms of humiliation... it runs from sensual teasing to hardcore cruelty... and it sounds like your wife has sensual teasing humiliation down pat Cathy!

And as far as you "joining right in and do all the girlie things that she wants" goes, that tells me that you are enjoying the teasing as much cupcake is

[ashplosh]

I love it when humiliation is added to feminization. I am alone on my sissy journey, I have no mistress/master and don't know anyone around me that is also a sissy. Despite this I do try to humiliate myself because I love it. I write things on my body like sissy and I often write clitty on my clitty. I eat my cum out of a cupcake bottle sometimes and I make myself look really slutty before I go to town on my dildos. I consider myself to be gay and many things sissies do are considered gay, and humiliating which is probably why I love being a sissy so much. To me giving a blowjob seems mundane to me, but if I did it acting like a girl the humiliation factor would make way more interesting to me, I might even give better head because if I was acting like a sissy it would be more intimate for me and would make me care more.

Granted I really like humiliation, another of my favorite kinks is petplay, and there are little things more humiliating then being treated like an animal. Granted I am also a furry so that might contribute to my love of petplay.

[Empress Christine]

I love it when humiliation is added to feminization. I am alone on my sissy journey, I have no mistress/master and don't know anyone around me that is also a sissy. Despite this I do try to humiliate myself because I love it. I write things on my body like sissy and I often write clitty on my clitty. I eat my cum out of a cupcake bottle sometimes and I make myself look really slutty before I go to town on my dildos. I consider myself to be gay and many things sissies do are considered gay, and humiliating which is probably why I love being a sissy so much. To me giving a blowjob seems mundane to me, but if I did it acting like a girl the humiliation factor would make way more interesting to me, I might even give better head because if I was acting like a sissy it would be more intimate for me and would make me care more.

It sounds like you do love being humiliated and I'm guessing you could get quite good at sucking cock, ashplosh. Of course there is only one way to find out

Give me a call sometime, I'll be happy to humiliate you!